Someone I knew lost their partner and the thing that stuck with me was when he said “His socks were still where he took them off I didn’t want to shift them because somehow it felt like he was still there.”
There is a sense of comfort in a pair of sneakers at the door a pair of socks lying on the floor or the robe hung behind the bedroom door.
Images are how we form memories.
As a Medium when I see someone who has passed who is in Spirit it is your memory of them I see and when they want you to know who they are it is the little things no one else would know that they whisper to me.
That’s what relationships are the little things the everyday little things that we take for granted but like the socks on the living room floor they are the first thing we miss when the people we care about are no longer with us.
I smile at the little things its a smile no one else sees because no one else knows I am looking. I smile when my partner takes off her glasses and I can see her eyes because they are incredibly beautiful.
I smile at the way she struggles to reach the top cabinet in the kitchen because she isn’t very tall. What would I miss if she wasn’t there? An open book the smell of freshly brewed coffee and the coat hung at the front door.
When we first step into a relationship we are engrossed in wanting the big things the fireworks the Mills and Boons moments the on bended knee undying devotion moments.
But they are simply that fleeting Kodak moments where we are caught up in the euphoria of being in love and being loved. They may be the memories that come up when you think of the “good” times but they won’t be the memories that will bring your loved one to your heart without you even knowing.
Your partner smells a certain way talks a certain way does things a certain way and while they may drive you crazy it’s those little things that you will miss the most.
A lot of money is spent these days on elaborate weddings as if making it a majestic occasion will create a memory so big it will last a lifetime. Maybe when you celebrate a wedding anniversary it may be a great memory to have but when you are saying goodbye for the last time you are simply going to recall a pair of faded sneakers at the front door and all you are going to want is for him to walk through that door one more time and put those sneakers on then turn to you and say won’t be long love you.
When your partner is snoring on the sofa sneak a smile and be grateful
When your partner is sitting on the floor scowling trying to figure out how to put the IKEA chair together sneak a smile and be grateful
When your partner gives you that knowing smile across the room as he/she talks to the most boring person on the planet sneak a smile and be grateful
Because it is those little things you will miss the most it is those little things the unexpected moments of joy of awareness of unconditional love that you will wish you had not let pass unnoticed.
Your relationship is a thousand little things interlocked together to form something beautiful and lasting. Just like this world we live in…..it is the little things that give meaning to the bigger picture.
Robin J Psychic
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