Why is it we think we should accomodate other people’s needs at the expense of our own? Don’t bother answering I already know its because we don’t want to be seen as anything but a nice person.
So where is it written your needs can’t be as important and why can’t there be compromise where both needs are met? There is a saying “give and inch and they will take a mile” and there might be an ounce of truth in this. If you continually make yourself into a secondclass citizen then others will treat you as one.
This may come as a surprise to you but…..gasp….some people don’t have any guilt around putting their needs first. In fact they will let you play the martyr all the time if that’s the role you want to adopt.
And here’s another newsflash you shouldn’t feel guilty asking for what you want. Its okay to ask for what you want. Not everyone is going to accomodate you but this doesn’t mean you can’t ask.
Raise you hand if you allow customer service people to walk all over you!
Raise your hand if you do all the chores in your home even though others are more than capable of doing their share!
Raise your hand if you allow people to push past you in lines!
Raise your hand if you are contually not asking for what you need or want because you are overwhelmed with guilt at the very thought!
Yep just as I figured there is a whole heap of us out there who need to polish up our self esteem. Drag our assertiveness out from under the bed and start believing we are indeed just as worthy as the next person to have our needs met.
You don’t have to be rude, obnoxious or a bully. But you can be assertive, truthful and respectful. Something to ponder….
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I spy with my third eye
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